Perception of trust in a relationship

In life, you need to have individuality or to enjoy things which may not be approved by other person. Real trust is the best thing and perception of trust is the second best thing in a relationship.  Obviously there has to be some reality of trust in a relationship and it can’t be based on a perception only.

In today’s society we don’t punish people for their malefactors or wrong doings. We only punish them if they get caught. Same is true in a relationship. Faith in a relationship does not develop because   both are faithful.  But both are not able to catch each other if they are doing any wrongs. Perception of trust can be fulfilled only if both perceive faith in each other. This means that both are ignorant about the unapproved acts of each other. It is a bad feeling if one is not free to enjoy and other is not approving it. This will start creeping up in a relationship and that person will also try to restrict other person’s freedom in some other way.

One simple way is to give space to each other. Now a days more and more people are craving for personal space. In this space both can do their own stuff without the knowledge of others. When they are together they can behave in a manner which is approved by both of them. It is a kind of silent mutual agreement. More nagging a person is, more energy other person has to spent to hide it which creates issues for both. Sometime people need space for themselves but not ready to give it to other. For a good relationship, it is important to have equal space to both of them otherwise one’s space will be threatened in the future.

Only giving space is not enough. If you carry scars of your acts, other person will get suspicious about your act and there will be more issues. The level of deceitfulness depends on the person, how smart he or she is.  To spot a liar, normally people see change in baseline behaviour. Some people can lie by looking straight into others eyes. So best is to be in same behavioural mode. Sometimes this can be accomplished by double personality mode. This is possible only if a person totally believes in both the perception. i.e., Right or Wrong of an act.   Before giving right perception to other, one has to believe in. This automatically gives the degrees of act one can do. As it might be difficult to perform multiple personalities and be successful. A person should be capable enough as an actor to perform multiple roles with sincerity. In our normal life we are doing this consciously or unconsciously.

So a relationship is more successful not only becase both are faithful to each other, but perceive trust in each other.  If both are free to do things on their own, than only they enjoy the company of each other. The relationship will only grow stronger from here.

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