love is consider as one of the basic and most important emotion. It is also often misunderstood. Different people express and experience love in different ways. In the name of love, human can really do extreme things. Hate seems opposite to love but it is different side of a same coin.
Experience or Qualia: Degree of experience vary from person to person. Obviously emotional people can have more richer experience. Dational (Data and rational) or non emotional people may not fall in love as emotional people do. They normally “like” somebody and not “love”. Most of the time, they themselves are confused about love. Dational people can normally see beauty but their brain may not trigger same feeling as compared to emotional people. Nobody is complete dational or emotional, but a combination of both with varying degrees. There is also nothing right or wrong with dational or emotional, but just a different way of experiencing things. Dational may not show high emotions but may be safer than emotional people and normally don’t hate as much as emotional people.
Regular giving does not increase love : It is not enough to feed someone on a regular basis or give all comforts of the world without any feeling, to get love in return. Others normally take things without any consideration and gets used to it. To generate love, One has to do some variations or show some effort in providing the means. People may not love their hands or legs as they get used to it but only know the importance, if they somehow loose in accident. May be God also play the same trick. If God has created a world where everything is endless and nobody has to do much effort, there won’t be any talk about the greatness of God.
Love deepens even more if you create more worries for lover : It looks like that love deepens if one is creating more problems or issues to the lover. It may look strange but worries seems to generate more love. People unconsciously mimic this behaviour and create stress to the people they love most. This could be a good test for anyone who is saying that he or she loves you. Try to create more issues. If he or she is emotional and loves you more or stick with you more, it is a confirmation. If he is dational person, he may not show same emotions which is not bad. Lots of people are really stressed in love, but still enjoy the feeling of love. But obviously there is a limit, don’t overstretch the patience of lover to a level where he or she will totally put off.
Love for a partner : Almost all kind of love can be shared except with partner or spouse. It is easy to share love with parents, with your multiple brothers or sisters, your kids and so on. If you treat somebody as your father or brother it is considered as a good thing. But things change totally if one is talking about sharing love with other women or men apart from your wife or husband. It is even considered sin or wrong by the person himself. In some culture or religion, polygamy is considered normal. But even in these society majority of time sharing love is a nightmare. Science believe that human babies are born immature, so this behaviour helps to create bond with single person to raise kids. So if you are not that fool and understand your responsibilities, it must be fine to love another person. Apart from your spouse, It may be possible to find another lovely person. But be responsible with your partner or spouse or family.
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