We live in the world of relationships. It does not matter who we are but it is important to maintain right relationships and contacts. Relationships can be broadly classified into two. First one is mostly as friends which is based on our personal choice. The second one may be inherited or forced upon us as in the case of arranged marriages, Parent-Children relationship and so on. First one is easy to make or break but in the case of second we may not have a choice of making it and it is difficult to break. Lets discuss the first type of relationship here.
In Mahabharata (holy book of Hindu religion), there is a great character named karna, a great warrior and archer . Karna has a great talent and ethically also a right person. The downfall to his life was only due to the commitment to his friend Dhuryodhan, a bad character of Mahabharata. Dhuryodhan supported Karna at the time when Pandavas rejected him or abused him. From that day onwards, Karna remained loyal to Dhuryodhan just to payback his friend and maintain frienship. Even Karna knew all along that Duryodhun is wrong, but he still supported him. He even end his life to fulfill the goals of Dhuryodhan. So even a great person like Karna can have disastrous consequences just because of wrong choice of friendship.
We also end up in these situations all the time. We meet lots of people who treats us good or do some favor and become good friends. Sometime we know that they are wrong but we still support them. We try to maintain the relationships as we try to pay their favor back. It is also important to see how he or she treats other people and just not you. Sometime it takes time to analyse or a situations to unfold. But sooner the realisation, better it will be. It is always wrong to support your best friend for wrong cause. If a right person does a bad thing with you, it is still a good idea to maintain a relationship. Wrong person may be helping you or favoring you for some wrong reason which may be greed or something else. It is your responsibility to guide him. If you keep on supporting your friend in wrong cause, you might be contributing in wrong doings. If he does not understand after a few tries, it is better to end the relationships. In this case, it is ok to forget about his favors or help provided by him. If it can be returned in some way, then do it and move on in life.
There is no end of friends in this world. If you are good in nature, you always end up with lots of friends. Making friendship or relationships with good people keeps your circle better. So it is more important who should be out from our friendship list. Also there are not much negative consequences of breaking these relationships. But in our second category of relationships it is not easy to break and does has dire consequences. Let’s discuss this next time.
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